A lot of people believe that avoiding conversations with people, blocking them off all social media are what it means to let them go, but it is not it. Letting people go has little to do with seeing and relating with them; you can let people go and still relate well with them.
I used to have a lady, whom I still respect to date and wishes success, but who is still very bitter about my exit from her NGO. Things were rosy between us during my time in her NGO – I was the one she could always call on. I was no doubt very handy, but she did not know that I did not come to stay.
There was a time we needed to have our usual annual event for the children, she traveled to the UAE then and came back towards the end of January. The program was to take place in February, which means we had a little time left.
We had a meeting (myself & her alone) when she returned from her vacation and she was contemplating canceling the event for the year because of the little time left to prepare and sort funds. That was where I came in; I projected my faith into her and we began right there to draft proposals. To cut the story short, we had a successful event that appeared on TV.
I remember she was sitting on my laps at a workshop we had in Ajah when we came up with a vision for the NGO & proceeded to register it. We were that close, although we had nothing intimate together – just common a goal to impact the world positively in our little ways.
I left the NGO when it was time to do so, but it did not go down well with her. While I had nothing against her, she refused to communicate with me and went ahead to block me on all her social media handles.
One would say that she had to block me to let me go, but the reverse is the truth – she hasn’t yet faced the reality of my exit – she is still bitter about it even though I have made it known to her several times that I have nothing against her and that I left only because my time was up.
Refusing to relate with people and blocking them off social media is a sign that you are resentful against them for any reason known to you – it is a sign of weakness that shows that you have not let them go. Blocking people only becomes reasonable if the people in question posses a direct threat to your freedom in any way, otherwise, it is not the way to let people go.
Two basic qualities help you to let people go, they are:
1. Understanding the concept of passersby – passersby are people who came to make an impact in your life but do not stay. No matter how good they have been or how good you are to them, they will leave quicker than you expect. By keeping them in your life when they wish to leave, you will be undoing their impacts.
Just make the most of their presence, pick the lessons that they dropped and move on with your life. If you try to hold on to them when their times are up, and they eventually go, you will be filled with resentment against them. This is what inspires emotional social distancing that leads to blocking on social media platforms.
2. Forgiveness – if you do not know how to forgive, you will go around wishing people not to become successful because they left you but that will not stop them from becoming successful, so the pain remains with you.
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