(What Changed My Sister for Good). Soul rhymez
In the last part of this article, I wrote that my sister who is known for being stubborn started crying the moment I said I loved her. What could have made her to do that? Let me give you a little background about how my sister grew up.
She grew up with parents that did not love each other – all she always saw was fights between her parents. It was obvious that there was no love lost between them. In addition to that, she was moved from one family to another, treated like a trash and returned to the village. All these happened before she turned 13.
All her life, she has never been loved – her first search for love with the boys led to pregnancy that brought more hatred and judgment. She was blamed for her ignorance – everyone, including her mother expected her to know better in a village where there was no proper sex education.
The responsibility of her child was inflicted on her – the father, another uneducated kid could not even take care of himself, much more a child. He was useless as far as taking care of the kid is concerned.
My sister had to drop out of school and began to work to feed herself and her kid. Life is tough for her! A life without love, all she had was hatred, and unfair judgment. No one ever wanted to listen to her; her opinions did not just count; everyone believed that she was a bad child.
It is tough living that way and she had to devise a strategy to defend herself. This comes in form of stubbornness and gross irresponsibility in respect to her child. She just wanted to live like other kids – she wanted her freedom, but her kid was in the way and no one was there to show her some support – not even some words of encouragement.
This is not out of place; when you hate people for something you think they are doing; they continue to do that thing as a way to prove that your hatred cannot stop them. It is also easy for them to do all that is bad since you do not believe that anything good can come out of them. My sister was like that. Read Also…………..
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When I mentioned that I loved her, she started crying because it was the first time a family member had said that to her – before that time, she always assumed that everyone in the family hated her. I proved her wrong, not only with my words, but also with my actions.
She had no other choice, but to cry. That cry was of regret. She regretted believing that everyone hated her. And from then on, she began to prove to me that she can be loved. She checks on me even if I do not. Even as I type this, her message just dropped on my phone. She was wishing me happy Sunday.
She does not lie to me and she obeys everything I tell her. I have more influence on her than her father. I did not spend a full day with her to change her. This shows that a lot of people that behaves so badly do so because all they have seen all their lives are hate and judgment; it makes them resentful and stubborn.
Many terrorists, armed robbers, and other criminals and even prostitutes get into what they do because the society forced them to have faith in hate by always hating and judging them before trying to know more about them. They no longer have anything to prove. You can change them by showing them sincere love. More judgment will further ruin them.
Will you make someone believe in love instead of hate?
There is more to people than we can see, and only if we can judge less, and love more, the world will be a better place. In part 5 of this article, I will explain how faith in hate made many women become narcissists and use feminism as cover-up.
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Credit; Soul rhymez