Hello Felician, please keep me anonymous as usual.
Please I need your help concerning a relationship issue. I’m a University student now in my 2nd year. In level 100, I had a crush on this lady in my best friend’s class and I told my best friend about it then my best friend told me to relax. So it actually took 3 months before I was able to talk to her in person. By she was a little afraid of trusting me but I made it clear that I’m not those type of guys because I from a prominent home in Ghana. We became friends and one Friday I proposed to her then she accepted. I was happy that she chose me over all the guys I knew also like her(but most of them just wanted to eat and dump her). So I made all the efforts to make her safe around me and then we became intimately close. I never wanted to loose her and she also never wanted to loose me too because we we were our first everything you dey barb.
We had some 2 weeks break and we had a lot fun together.
I genuinely love this girl but one thing about her is that she’s a secretive lady. Something happened along the line friend trooping in saying the girl is a play girl because she goes out with so many guys and at first I didn’t want to believe it but one of my friends met her face 2 face and spoke very ill to her that she’s a player and a whole lot so out of that she broke up with me.
I was so hurt and heartbroken for a whole month . I realised both of us had missed ourselves because we genuinely loved each other and the truth is that we both were have sleepless nights an whole lot within a month. So I took a bold step to win her back and thankfully we fixed our broken pen and then we started to date again.
The relationship continued and both were happy again together but when before we came back one of our course mate was giving her the care and attention during the time we broke up.
And when we came back I realised that I had to do something for her to stop thinking about that guy. And they broke their friendship but they were still talking but I never bothered about all those secret text from the guy. Everyone came to realised that we were dating and most of our friends were happy and some also were speaking very ill of me to my girlfriend. And she got influenced by the things she was hearing and she started to treat me anyhow. Any small thing then she’s bored but I was rather in pain cos I never want to see her hurt again in my life.
My dad is a prominent person so he actually sat me down and show what this life meant and live my very best always making love the centre of everything.
Genuinely I have never falling in love with any lady like my current girlfriend. I changed to be the best person to love this girlfriend of mine no matter what happens. I’m still gonna stay beside her. I’m not a stingy guy and I know to love is to give. So we vacated our 2nd semester of level 100 and there had been a whole lot that has happened, she almost broke up with me which nearly made me commit suicide but my best friend(male) always was there to help me. Now my girlfriend is treating as if I’m a friend to her in everything, through texts and sometimes calls. But now I can’t call her of because she gave me a reason for me not be calling her at night anymore. I have been in depression so many times because of her but I genuinely love her and would risk anything to spend the rest of my life with her. I give her everything (money, gifts and etcetera) that a matured responsible boyfriend would do for his girlfriend. But rightnow she doesn’t talk to me often like we use to do, straight forward answers through texts, anytime she wants that’s when she will text me, always she’s the first to text me before I wake up but now she has stop and a whole lot. She tells me she loves and she also never gonna let me go but why those attitudes towards me. I just want to know if I’m not good enough for himor what’s her reason for treating me as such always.